If you were to come over for a cup of coffee…
… I would probably tell you how I am still having Christmas Décor withdrawals. Some people love the fresh start and simplicity after taking down the décor. I’m the opposite. It’s sad and feels empty and I miss the twinkle lights around every corner. Maybe it’s because of being in the Midwest? It’s still gloomy here. Spring is nowhere in sight.. And well.. It’s depressing.
… I would probably tell you that I keep hoping for snow. I hate not having snow. I know a lot of people disagree on this… but I mean if it’s going to be cold…we might as well have snow on the ground. I want to go sledding and the Maddux wants to play in the snow… and I remember going sledding throughout the winter and lately I feel like there is never enough snow and if we are lucky we get to go sledding once.
… I would probably talk to you about our new year resolutions. I have mentioned them on Facebook… I watched the documentary on being a Minimalist – Now I know that I could NEVER do this. It’s not something I would like to do… but it had some great ideas behind it and really had me thinking about the difference between what I want and what I need. So I would like to be more actively aware of the difference. Now, this is not entirely a 2017 resolution… as much as it is something I would like to continually be aware of. I feel like we fall into this trap… we make more money… we want more things. And I am going to be honest… with kids… it’s hard. I am not one of those 4 present moms at Christmas. And I don’t really want to be. I want to spoil my kids. Not rotten. I don’t believe that spoiled kids are not grateful. I would argue the opposite and that well… it’s all on how they are raised…. And I want to raise grateful spoiled children. I could say no more. I could. Do I want to say no? Not really. But Maddux is reaching an age where I do need to start teaching him about saving up for something you really want. And that is going to be a hard lesson for me and for him. The first time I say no… and that you will have to use your own money to save up for it. because that is a lesson I think all kids need to know. And not a here’s the money so you can buy it… but him taking months and months to buy it. So if I am going to teach my kid this lesson… maybe I can re-teach myself that lesson as well. Do I need it? Do I really want it? Or do I want it… because everyone else has it?
… I would tell you that it’s hard to admit that sometimes you want something just because everyone else has it. But we all do it. Every single one of us. And a lot of the time… we find out after we have it… that we really didn’t need it. And it’s not as great as we thought it was. And it’s a waste of money. I found that happened with baby gear a lot. I bought so much baby gear with Maddux… because everyone swore by this product or that product. And that’s why I think most moms tone it down the second time around… we realize we didn’t need all that. Most of it never got used… and what a waste of money if you added it all up. Now on the flip side of that… there were plenty of things I did use that people told me I wouldn’t… but I would have been better off almost waiting and figuring it out as I went instead of filling our tiny apartment with primary colored giant play gyms, swings, bouncers, gliders, activity centers etc. So with Hudson, I go with what we need. I don’t care about the newest sippy cup trend or the new stroller… or the high chair that is 3x the price because it turns into a step stool. Seriously… my kid doesn’t need a $400 dollar step stool. And if he can sit in that toddler seat… well he can climb up and sit at the kitchen table in this seat here.. And I can finally throw away that disgusting high chair. But I just want to have a bit more self awareness of making purchases that I don’t always need. I feel like this isn’t anything new. I have been trying to do it for a while. I am just making a commitment to myself that I will finally really focus in on it.
… I would probably tell you that the one thing about minimalism that intrigues me the most is the simplified wardrobe. There was a time in my life when I couldn’t own enough clothes. And now… I pretty much wear the same key pieces throughout my work week… and the same “Mom Wear” on the weekends. And about 60% of my closet sits there untouched. I know that I have dresses and skirts and tops still with the tags on… and I am a sweat pant and hoodie hoarder. I can tell you that I am SO GOOD about throwing things out that we don’t use… except sweat pants and hoodies. I literally get teary eyed thinking about it. It’s ridiculous. I don’t wear them all. So that is my plan is to cut back on the wardrobe. Invest in those key pieces that I do wear… rather than spending money on pieces that are in style that I think I would like to wear… but end up never even ripping the tag off of. I would like to get down to 40 items. Not including workout clothes or sleepwear. And see how that goes. That’s my plan. I mean.. I donated my wedding dress a few months ago… but I can’t give my sweat pants from ISU. There is something seriously wrong with me.
… I would probably talk to you about going back to Vegan. I would say this is not a 2017 goal either… as much as just a lifestyle choice. And we aren’t truly vegan. But it’s easier to say then explain it. But on weekends we tend to go out for breakfast so we have decided that those days we can have eggs (Jerry) and Got Cheese (Me) those are the two things that we do not want to give up. When we did this a few years ago, it was HARD. It was the hardest thing I have done. Not eating cheese. And now going back to it. It’s so crazy how much easier it is. I have no idea what is true or not true. And the internet is the worst at adding confusion to that. People read all these health forums on the internet and decide that the person behind those words is an expert and goes with it. But some of the research of the health of plant based countries has made me curious. And when we tried it before Hudson, I felt great. And after we get into the groove of all of it… it’s fun to do with Jerry. We like cooking together and trying new things. And honestly – anything to help me lose this stubborn baby weight is worth a try. I was back to normal by Maddux’s 2nd birthday… so I am hoping to say the same for Hudson’s.
… so with going off of that we aren’t having our kids go vegan. A lot of people ask us this…. so I might as well just discuss why we are not. Now before you read this. I don’t want to offend anyone. This is just our opinion on why we are not. :) We have a pediatrician that .. His word… is final. And I feel like if you don’t have a pediatrician that you are going to listen to – well then you need to find someone you trust. Just my personal opinion. So when he says our kids need milk… and Not almond milk. Not coconut milk. Not goat milk. Not soy milk. Well I listen to him. I don’t care what I read on the internet… and I don’t care what Joe Smith is telling me in his popular documentary. My kids eat dairy. If they want meat… I give them meat. But they are around more plant based foods and I have found that if kids are around it… without knowing… they will make better choices. So often we make two dinners… if the kids have a request… or we are eating something with beans… they both refuse to eat beans :) I get worried about our “millennial generation” thinking and all this information that is SO EASILY available at our fingertips. Not saying I am right. But I just feel like if we trust our pediatrician’s knowledge to keep our kids healthy and safe then we should trust them when they say they need calcium. Maddux doesn’t drink too much milk anymore. He will have chocolate milk if we go out to breakfast… or he loves his kid steamers from Starbucks. So if I give him almond milk for his cereal he doesn’t even flinch. But Hudson, is at that toddler age where I am told he needs whole milk until the age of 2. And I don’t think Hudson eats enough consistently for me to go against that. One day… he will eat as much as his brother and I won’t have to worry about him getting enough calories ;)
… I would probably tell you that I have been reading a ton of books about slowing down. And I think it’s challenging me a bit. Maybe it’s me reaching 35… and really figuring out what makes me happy. Not saying I am unhappy. I just don’t want to get sucked away at work… missing out on what matters and balance. I need balance between it all. The kids are growing fast and I am going to blink and they will be off and running to college… and it’s hard… and I think I need to slow down… breathe… take stock and figure out my balance. Rather than going with the flow of everyone else. Taking a moment to figure out what I need… what my family needs and go from there. And just taking some time and doing a bit of soul searching so I don’t find myself lost in this fast moving world.
… I have this obvious passion for Home Décor… and Real estate in general… and my degree in Economics. And someday I would love to figure out a way to blend the two. I want to be more aware of my surroundings and taking advantage of opportunities that fit into our lives and having the courage to say no when it does not.
…. But on a lighter note where are you at? Are you setting goals for 2017? Has slowing down crossed your mind at all? Or have you already accomplished it? Have you reduced your wardrobe? Have you found it more convenient? Share your story with me!