If you were to come over for a cup of coffee today…
Ill warn you I think I’m feeling a bit controversial today. SO you might want to turn around … walk back out the door and come back over next week when I am not feeling so bothered… However, if we are really friends you know that I get tired of social media drama. I hate it being used for insanity. People take issues and just blow them up beyond any sane point of reasoning and it drives me crazy.
I’ll start off with the Target bathrooms. I guess I don’t get it. I mean… these people will go into the bathroom shut the stall.. Do their business…. Hopefully wash their hands and be about their day. I’m betting if you were in there unless you are a creep who watches someone feet in the bathroom you most likely wouldn’t even have a clue the difference. I mean I bring my boys into the women’s bathrooms… what’s next? Is that going to be on the news next?
Don’t people have better things to do with their time? It’s not like these people are going to be whipping it out in the sink. I mean come on… you are going to have no idea.
This will bring me on the topic… that is going to be controversial… this is my issue with religious institutions. They come together on these issues and blow them up. This has always confused me… even when I was younger… it says in this bible that they hold for GOLD. Only God can judge you. SO why don’t they just let him do his job then and back off. Aren’t you actually being a bad Christian by judging others and causing all these issues? I mean… seriously take your extra time and put it towards something worthwhile. There is plenty of violence in the world… and if you are worried about your children’s safety why don’t you focus on the true pedophiles and sex trafficking and all the terrible things that go on right here in our own country.
I’m serious though. Who has time to boycott everything. And when did religious institutes become this big platform of boycotting EVERYTHING??? I take that back. It’s not even the institutions.. It’s the members.
Don’t get me wrong. I go to church. And I love Jesus. And most days… I believe in the life beyond . I won’t lie. I’m not perfect. I doubt. I question. But I think that’s okay. Our church had a touching sermon the other day… discussing that religious institutes are dying. That they see the writing on the wall.. .every year there are less and less people at service… and how it is supposed to be a place of support. A place where a community comes together… loves one another and does good… they go out and they do GOOD in the community. And how that is getting lost … and it got me thinking… social media is probably increasing the loss of members. How many times do I turn on my computer to see someone posting something about abortions, gay marriages, transgendered people, etc in a negative light. How they will attach Jesus to their own opinions. And I just think… I bet Jesus would love if you took that 5 minutes you posted that to do something good with his name…rather than that.
And that’s where I was thinking… that’s where all these people are screwing up. Because now we have Facebook where people are just posting about how all these issues go against religion and it shouldn’t be allowed and they boycott and they spread hate. And It drives me insane.
There are so many people that turn others off of religion… because they shove it at you. They shove all of their beliefs… and sadly all of their hate. When did religion become about hate?
It’s something Jerry and I talk about … how at one time interracial marriages boycotted. Churches spoke out against it… people went crazy… and then we grew up in the 80s. It was everywhere… on TV… and how TV made it acceptable. And how great that was… what that did for our generations.
So someone close to me the other day was talking about the bi-sexual or homosexual scenes all over TV… and I was like… they aren’t shoving it in your face… they are teaching acceptance. My kids won’t know anything different and how it compared to us growing up with the interracial marriages… and honestly.. Thank God for that. Because really… 10 years from now what is you boycotting this do? I mean… do you remember when churches were racist? How that changed? Do you remember how being divorced got you kicked out of the church? And then that changed? Honestly people… open your eyes. This will all become a thing of the past. How about you be on the side of acceptance? Rather than resistance?
If churches want to still be around… mark my word… they will start accepting. Because at the end of the day… a church is a business. And they will lose members.. And they are losing members now… unless they start changing.
So holding onto these crazy beliefs… not allowing people to be themselves… really you are hurting yourself… if you truly believe it is a sin… why can’t you just keep your mouth shut and let God be the judge? It tells you to in that book you are holding. So why be a hypocrite?
Again. I go to church… I believe in God. I love Jesus. But you know what? I also love Human Beings… and I love… people being in Love. I love seeing people happy. Why can’t we start working on acceptance… and support. Why can’t we start using social media platforms to spread these messages? Why can’t churches become a place of acceptance. A place of community. A place to come together and do good in the community. Together. Regardless on your race, age, income, sexual preference, etc. How about we take the time to get to know the people you are raging against on social media. Maybe if you took a moment… stopped being so biased… and took the time to get to know one of them you would realize… you are doing your religion a favor. You then would be spreading the word of Jesus… You would be spreading love… and acceptance… not hate and judgment.
This was a big issue for my husband and I. Wanting our kids to go to Sunday school… because we love the moral lessons Sunday school brings to kids…. However, we are both very accepting and we both have had issues with the messages that are brought out by church communities. We will not allow our kids to be judgmental. It is imperative to us that they are accepting and open to people in general. We want them to know that love is love… regardless of race, status, gender, etc. I was brought up by a family that has always given us this message. I was lucky to be around a family as a whole that is accepting of others always. My husband was raised in a more traditional stance… where there were rules to relationships… and he said that college opened his eyes to that being wrong. And how getting to know people for who they are … regardless of their relationship status… economic status… etc. It made him question church and everything it stood for. I sometimes think this is where it loses people and I want so badly for church to be a community of good. Of involvement. Of a place of support and love… and acceptance.
Let’s teach our kids love and acceptance? Let’s teach them to be kind… and generous …
… Better yet… maybe we should start letting our kids teach us that? Watch your kids….
How they are curious and accepting. They do not judge. They are innocent and pure. And they love unconditionally… they love fiercely … What changes that? How do we go from that to what we are today?
Am I alone in this? Does anyone else get tired of it? Or am I too sensitive?
Sometimes I think… what do I do if someday they are boycotting my kid. What if it’s my kid that on the other end of this hate? Or what if it’s that Christians? What if their daughter comes home and is too afraid to tell her parents that she has met the love of her life… because its a girl? I want my kids to be open with me on who they are. And I don’t want people hating them because they are afraid of what that does to them. because honestly people. it does nothing to you. It doesn’t change your day. your week. It does nothing. And if Jesus has a problem with it… well that’s between them and Jesus. How about you leave it that way? I don’t think he came to you and asked you to speak on his behalf right? they ask you to spread the word of Jesus. I am pretty sure they are asking you to spread joy and love. Not judgment and hate. Maybe we need to practice being kind Christians first… ? Just a thought
… I warned you… controversial.
… I almost deleted this and went with my normal ramblings… but I want this to be an honest place. Where I talk about what’s on my mind. Like we are friends sitting down for a cup of coffee…. So here it was.
… Until next week sweet friend…