If you were to come over for a cup of coffee this morning….
… I would probably rant to you that I think moms are crazy. Or does motherhood just bring out the crazy? I think overall its hard. And we should probably cut each other a break once in a while. But that doesn’t seem to happen. And I’ll admit I have been just as guilty of passing judgment as everyone else. But it’s wrong. We all know its wrong so I am not sure why we continually make the same mistakes but we do. we all do it.
… I would tell you I was over meeting my newest niece and it briefly came up. We talked about how you second guess stuff you post on social media because people will twist it on you. You post a photo of your kid in front of a tv and people will immediately tell you how television is not good for your kids and lecture you on it. You post a photo of your baby in the car seat and people will study in detail the exact positioning of every detail just to point out if something is wrong. I get annoyed by all of this.
… I feel that it goes both ways. People complain about moms who don’t do enough and people complain when they things moms do too much. I know that every Christmas there will be people on my news feed that will constantly make fun of mothers that participate in the elf on the shelf. I never comment. I just don’t get why it matters. I choose to do it for my kids. I enjoy it. They enjoy it. I would never post things about moms who choose not to do it. I would never buy it for someone trying to push it on them. So i guess I don’t get why its an issue.
… I would tell you that I love Pinterest. I love the ideas I get off of there. I believe in making the most that I can out of these years when my kids are small and a website that shares with me traditions other moms have with their kids?!?!!? How is this a bad thing?
… It’s crazy to me that you are judged if you do… judged if you don’t. That is just the way it is now a days. Thanks to the internet. Sometimes I think how much easier parenting would be without social media. How it’s turned into a giant circus of judgement and bitterness at times.
… I would tell you that I hate competition. I don’t want to compete with anyone about my life. I believe that we all do the best we can and I wish that were enough. I think there is too much of it … sometimes i consider removing social media and just taking a break from it all. But I know I have close friends and family that love seeing photos of the boys and its an easy way to share our lives with them while they are far away.
… I would tell you that I am stubborn though. As much as I value’s people’s opinions who have my best interest at heart I like to figure things out on my own. I believe in having my own opinion and figuring out what is best for us and us only. I have found that offered advice taints our point of view. I like to cut some of that white noise and honestly just sit down with Jerry and talk through our decisions. I don’t like justifying them to anyone. I try very hard to not be a soapbox friend. And if you catch me falling short of that… please tell me. I love seeing my friends and family happy, but I don’t always believe what works for them will work for me and I think we are all easily influenced by it once the convo starts in one way or another.
… I would share with you info on the house front… the contingency has been lifted so our house is sold. It’s a weird feeling. Saying bye to your home is also saying goodbye to those memories in a way. I mean… your home is sentimental .. it holds the story of your past. Walking around memories come back in like crazy lately. and I know that we have more things to look forward to but it’s still hard.
… I would tell you that I wanted an old house and it doesn’t seem to be in the cards. So we are going through our want list…. and keeping it to what works for us. Weighing all options. It will be fun to take a blank slate and fix it up. If we end up with another cookie cutter home I look forward to personalizing it and customizing it… so over the next few weeks we will be narrowing it all done. and it will be a giant headache/exciting process.
… I would tell you that I was thinking how crazy this past year has been… Hudson being born, adopting Charlie, Maddux starting school, New jobs for both me and Jer, selling our home, Jer finishing his masters, 2 trips to Disney… and soon we will be heading to Hawaii. Things have been such a whirlwind.. I am looking forward to finding a new home and life slowing down a bit this summer.
… I would also share with you an important update from last week. I have finished One Tree Hill… just in time for tv shows to pick back up. I am a tv junkie. I cant help myself.
… by now it would be time to get the day going… Until next week dear friend…