… If you were to come over and share a cup of coffee with me this morning….
… I would probably tell you how I have a serious addiction to Zulily. Do you have one? I can’t stop myself. It’s ridiculous. I don’t even need this stuff. However, I will tell you that I am over halfway done with my Christmas shopping already … thanks to Zulily. This year I am trying to center the gifts around stuff Maddux loves right now. Which is a little less character based than it has been in the past (which I think kills Jerry) Right now he lives and breathes all things dinosaurs. We have to stop out on walks and look for dinosaur tracks… and then he finds random rocks and thinks it’s a piece of a dinosaur bone. It’s hilarious and adorable… and perfect in every way. He is super into school as most kindergartener’s are I think. He loves learning and reading and is just genuinely interested in anything his teacher says. So Zulily has been such a fun source grabbing things for him… books, dinosaurs… science experiment kits… telescopes… microscopes… anything remote-controlled. It’s been so fun this year searching for interesting new toys.
…. I would probably tell you that I decided Hudson will only get one or two things this year. Which is a little unfair because Maddux will get so much. But we are swimming in baby gear already … and really there is nothing he needs. So we will grab a few small things and we did buy a dinosaur rocking horse thing off Zulily that I am sure he will love. But honestly – after grandparents, cousins, and us – there isn’t a lot he needs and it almost feels wasteful to buy a bunch of things he will outgrow in the next few months anyways. I kind of just figure he will be interested in whatever Maddux has … that seems to be the way it goes with the second kids. They are infatuated with their older siblings and ultimately infatuated with their toys. So I figure those Imaginext Sets we have invested so many $$$ into over the years with Maddux will be shortly handed over to Hudson soon enough. … I can only hope they enjoy the same toys. It would save me so much money if it works out that way. So it probably won’t work out that way…
… I would tell you how hard this new schedule has been. I can’t even remember if I have brought this up already. So I’ll bring it up again. Balancing everything is hard. I feel like we never have any time. Everything is just.. busy. There is always homework or permission slips… or order forms… or something for school. Then we have music lesson and sports… and then Jerry has grad school. It’s just busy! I just want a weekend with no plans. A whole weekend. But with the holidays approaching I know that is not happening. I am sure with time I’ll have a better balance on it. Right now… I’m a mess. Thank God we have a friend in the same class… I am sure she is tired of me asking “when is that due” or “how much do I owe”….
… I would probably talk to you about having two boys. I love having two boys. I can’t even tell you how much I love it. But it’s crazy to me the comments from others on … are you going to try for a girl? And sometimes depending on my mood… I almost want to scream. I don’t understand the gender issue with people. When we were pregnant the first time… I wanted a healthy baby. It didn’t matter … pink or blue. I just wanted 10 fingers… 10 toes… and a pink healthy happy baby. That was all. We found out we were having a boy and I’ll be honest there was doubt in my mind. I think we all experience it regardless but I was nervous… how would i raise a boy? I knew nothing about boys?!?! Then we had Maddux… and I can not even tell you the happiness that beams from this child. He is a snuggler… he always wants to tell his mom how beautiful she is… he loves to get dirty and play and run… and most days he smells terribly after a hard day of playing outside. I love every single part of being a mom to a boy.. Then we got pregnant again.. and after losing our previous pregnancy… all i wanted was a healthy happy baby. I didn’t care pink or blue. I did not care at all either way. People would ask if we were hoping for a certain sex.. and the honest answer was no. Jerry and I would stay up late talking… playing out both scenarios. Sure we thought it would be great to experience the other side… ballet recitals… pigtail… barbies… tutus. and we would smile and get lost in that thought… but then we would think about brothers… and Maddux teaching his little brother how to throw a baseball… a football… teaching him about all things Star Wars… The idea of two boys running around the house wrestling.. and we would smile and lose ourselves in that thought. Either way we played it out… we were happy. All we wanted was a healthy baby… I get so offended by strangers or even… not strangers… just anyone. I get so absolutely offended when they ask if we are going to try again for a girl. or “third time’s a charm” – it irritates me to my core. I have plenty of friends who have had two boys and wanted that girl and tried again. And I understand that … if you want that. Go for it. I don’t know why this topic offends me so much. But it does… I think mainly because it is said within earshot of my kids… and it’s almost like they aren’t enough… and I should try again. And I never want them to overhear that. They are enough… more than enough… and this random person is a moron. (but I can’t teach them that either) So usually its a half-smile and a brush off … and we walk away… while I am visualizing picking up that toy sword out of my shopping cart and whacking that person across the face. There might be a bit of hostility in there if you can’t tell:) Rant over….
… speaking of my boys, I would ask you… if you had boys… about the sensitivity of a boy. Maddux is such a sensitive child. My sister has all girls… my brother has girls… so for me I don’t have a comparison. I just kind of assume it’s normal. Is it normal? His feelings are hurt so easily. He bounces back immediately. But he is sensitive… he is rowdy and destructive in play… but such a sensitive little soul. He cares so much about others. He goes out of his way to make friends with other kids. And he’s such a good little soul and I know that. But I wonder… are boys in general more sensitive than little girls? or is my kid just… an exception? I tell my husband all the time… “that’s normal” but i have no idea. I would love some insight if you have some. Don’t get me wrong. I am not worried about him. I love that he is sensitive. I adore his sweet little personality. I am just curious … is this the age? is this typical?
… I would ask you about meal planning. Do you do it? How do you do it? I desperately need to. I throw out about 50% of what I buy.. because I forget I buy it… or I get busy and just decide it’s late and I would rather grab Panera than cook. I need to meal plan. I need to schedule it out and stick to it. This weekend I am hoping to do it for the first time. Right it all down. Plan everything out. Then write it on our chalkboard and force myself to stick to it. How do you do it? Tell me your secrets? Help me get my life organized huh?
… Then I would tell you about the barn door. This laundry room barn door is going to kill me. We bought this old antique door and it’s perfect. But the door itself is crooked. The barn door hardware is straight but the door lays crooked. so we have to cut it down. This project has been HARD. I have no updates because this week Jerry had parent teacher conferences and I have been single parenting it all week (hence the massive amounts of dubsmashes last night) so that project is placed on hold. Hopefully this weekend we can wrap that up. Fingers crossed huh? Want to come over on Sunday and help us? No? okay then… : )